I don’t have to ask you if you know what #goals means. Because I’m assuming we all already know. Most likely we picture it as a comment to someone’s Instagram picture. And let’s be honest, we all at one point, have strived to get an Instagram picture worthy of a #goals comment.

For a while now, I have been wanting to write about this, but I could never find the exact words I wanted to spit out on the subject.


Instagram IS A LIE and #goals IS A LIE.

Why is it that we strive so hard to find the absolute perfect picture, even if that means taking 100 pictures, then editing “the one” until it looks #goals worthy? I know this because I have been a victim of wanting #goals. But I still can’t figure out why I tried so hard to be that girl. And even more, I can’t figure out why we are all doing this.

Ladies. What are we doing to ourselves?

Well, let me tell you.

  • We are driving our confidence into a mud pit. Then as soon as we hit that mud pit, the mud brings us down, and we stick… Actually, add a four wheeler into that. It’s like driving a four wheeler into that mud pit, then trying to get you and the four wheeler out of that mud pit.. That’s more like it. We become obsessive with wanting #goals and every picture to be worthy of more than 300 likes.


  • We set ourselves in a castle, on a high mountain, thinking we are above and beyond all other people who have not yet received #goals. We are Queen Bee of Insta-land and when another Queen Bee stumbles across, we must show that we have more authority in our own Insta-land. We lose our self worth and forget who we really are. And on top of that, we learn attributes such as selfishness, and hosting an overly large ego in our brains.

For most of the time, we honestly have no idea what we are doing to ourselves. I’m not sure where the idea started that we had to come off as perfect to be perfect..? Because it’s sure as heck, not true.

Let me be the one to tell you, Instagram doesn’t show off your true self. There’s absolutely no way to show how beautiful and smart you truly are by one picture. If Instagram could show how wonderful of a person you are, there would be no #goals, because every single person is SO wonderful in DIFFERENT ways. Everyone is so different and capable of so much. We are capable of so many things other than a perfect picture with #goals + 30 other comments.

I’ve watched over time and decided Instagram is becoming a plague. And I’m sick of it. I’m tired of feeling like it’s one big competition to find the perfect picture. I hate that feeling. I hate that all we want to do is raise our self esteem, even if that means posting a picture of us on the beach in a bikini, posing in front of the water, with a caption saying “I like tacos.” Completely, irrelevant to a bikini picture. What’s the matter with us? Why do we do this? And why do we keep doing it even when we know we don’t want to?

If you’re reading this thinking, “Wow, this is a really stupid blog.” Then I’m assuming you are the one up on the top of Insta-land’s mountains.

If you’re reading this and nodding your head in agreement to the fact that you feel down, then you’re more of the stuck-in-the-mud type of person, which I admit I totally was, and sometimes totally am.

My fear is that if I delete Instagram, then I won’t be able to keep up with people. But my biggest fear is that if I keep Instagram, I stay in the plague and feel more down with every post.

So, what’s the answer?

Maybe, we all try a little harder not to be so perfect because we aren’t. Nobody is. What happened to a cute natural picture of you just having fun. And ya, I said it… HAVING FUN. Because taking 100 pictures isn’t always fun… Plus it kills your battery and takes up too much storage. It’s more fun just to be natural. Be yourself. Don’t take pictures for Instagram, take them because one day you will remember all the good times from the picture.

Pictures are worth a thousand words, not just #goals.

If a person writes on a picture, “Oh my gosh, that was so much fun. We had some good times, and remember that person who offered to take the picture- they were so nice. I’m so glad we got to do that together. Lets go do it again,” instead of “#goals,” then you know you did something for yourself and not for others.

I’ve been thinking about it so much lately because this was me. I drove myself crazy wanting to post about all the cute pictures I had and all the fun things I thought I was doing. I thought it would make me more #goals worthy. But, it didn’t. It made me more depressed. I had more confidence issues than ever. I wasn’t comfortable in my own skin. Personally, I think that’s one of the worst feelings to have. It feels like an infectious disease.

So, with everything said. I told Brax eventually, I want to delete my Instagram and start a scrapbook because scrapbooking is so much more fun and personal. Plus, it’s more dear to your heart.



-Ryry Shae

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