Being a new mom, was brutally scary. Let me say that again.. “WAS.” At one point, I was scared half to death. I don’t think I really knew anything about being a mom and honestly it got scary. It hit me about two months before Ivy came…
Of course, I did lots of planning and research to make sure everything would be perfect for when she came. I seriously spent slow days at work drawing out layouts of her room and researching everything. I made cute decorations and bought a few, as well. I had bought a cute braided bumper that I researched about and found safer than traditional bumpers. I set up her room and was so excited with how things were turning out.
That’s when the realization started. I posted a pic on a social media story and immediately got messages telling me that the bumpers I got weren’t safe. It hit me and I BROKE DOWN. I told Brax that night that I had no idea what I was doing and that I was not going to be a good mom to our tiny girl. He reassured me that everything would be fine. Seriously, love him!
About a month later, I received one of the greatest notes during a bridal shower from a good neighbor. That gifted note told me to not worry about what anyone else says, but instead to go to family when in need of questions or help. I didn’t realize how much this note would mean to me. This was a note that every mom-to-be should receive. I’d like to call them some of the wisest words I have received thus far, in my journey through motherhood.
When I delivered, those fearful feelings ran strong with Ivy being so delicate. I was in the hospital for a long period of time, and thank goodness! Because I loved having the support, at first. When I took her home, I remember lying her in her bassinet and being so afraid to leave her alone. I would walk back and forth, checking on her constantly.
I decided it would be a great idea to rely on a motherhood group on Facebook for some extra support. Soon after, I found myself constantly asking and looking up questions. I became obsessed with trying to foresee every situation that could possibly cause harm to Ivy. But, I began to notice that I was really driving myself crazy. I started seeing too many judgmental moms pointing fingers to other moms who weren’t doing the “right thing.” Sure, you could say I felt pressured to be a perfect mom. Hahah. Sounds hilarious now because no mom is perfect. Lucky enough, I felt the effects so I could jump off that page and follow those wise words from my bridal shower.
Best decision I’ve ever made.
After looking back at my experiences with Ivy, there is one thing I know for sure, there’s no “perfect” mom or, by all means, a “right” way of doing things. Mommy senses are a real thing that will actually kick in giving insight to your child’s needs. I know for a fact that my inspired feeling of those bumpers were those mommy senses kicking in. Little did I know, Ivy would be a baby that would kick herself around the crib, and into corners, at 8 weeks old. (She’s got some powerful legs haha)
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So, here I am telling you to trust in your instincts. I decided to pass those wise words that were shared with me to all of you. Do what’s best for you and your child, and only listen to the close individuals in your life that truly mean the world to you. I love all the advice I receive, but time and time again, I listen to my mom and mother-in-law. In all honesty, sometimes I even have to step away from some of their advice if I feel something else is necessary for Ivy.
Ladies. Just trust your gut.
You will know your babies more than anyone else.
Don’t let people tell you that you aren’t doing the right thing because I know you will do the right thing for your baby. In the end, you’ll make the right choice!
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